Relationships and moving on

Emotional Cord Cutting

All of us at some stage in our lives have gone through difficult relationships, whether it be a significant other, parent figure, friend or a work colleague. A cord maybe a positive or negative energetic structure that ties you and another person together.

A positive bond that contains energies like love, good times and lesson learned together, affection …all the good stuff! This is a positive cord that we never want to sever because it contains all that is good about the relationship.

Sadly one other is a negative cord of attachment – this energetic structure is very different from the positive type because it contains all the negative energies that have ever been a feature of your relationship.  For example, let’s say you have a cord of attachment to an ex-boyfriend…. Maybe he cheated on you, maybe he just ignored you, maybe he was emotionally absent..  Encoded within this cord are the feelings you had when you found out he was cheating on you.  This could be feelings of paranoia, energies of inadequacy; feelings of rage.  Also encoded within the cord could be the pattern of wanting to please your boyfriend, so that he wouldn’t ever leave you. When you split up, you may never see each other again, but the negative structure (the cord of attachment) between you can remain…. This is a cord that contains those unhelpful patterns : rage, inadequacy, paranoia; keeping quiet and pleasing others at your own expense.

Even though you are supposed to have moved on from the relationship, those energies circulate between you both and still affect you.  For example, you still think of your ex-partner and you still despise him even though you wish you didn’t.  When you get into a new relationship, you may feel the same old paranoia.  And things that happen may remind you of the old relationship – even though it bears no resemblance, in reality.

The problem is that all the painful and traumatic experiences that were created in that relationship can then be carried on to your next relationship. In fact the frequency of those unresolved energy cords and ties may attract you to people, places, times, things and events that resonate with the frequency of that , anger, grief, betrayal, heartbreak, pain and hurt. So when you do enter into another relationship you can have a tendency to project onto your new relationship all of this anger and hurt from the past one. These relationship cycles continue over and over and the person is not aware why their relationships fail or why they can’t attract a different type of person. So they keep creating more and more similar experiences and the energetic blockages become more solidified

What is cord cutting?

Cord-cutting is a process that severs that negative attachment between you and another person so that the shadow of that past does not hang over you or affect your behaviour in the present.    Cord cutting often frees up more of our energy and stops you repeating the pattern with the person in question.

This process is exactly what I facilitate for other people during the interactive Cutting Cords of Attachment Clearing Session.  Using Hypnosis with advanced energy healing techniques  we are able to cut all karmic ties and energy cords that bind you to that previous relationship(s).

Some of the most common relationships that are important to focus on are:

mother/daughter, father/son, husband/wife, past friends, past lovers, past abusive relationships, and relationships with employers.

When we clear the karmic ties and cut cords of attachments between you and your family members, it doesn’t mean that you can’t have a relationship with them anymore. It just means that your relationship will evolve from a karmic or co-dependent one, into a relationship of love and understanding.
 A true union is when you can love the other person and not expect anything back from them in return, and allow them to be who they are. In this way, you have two people who are truly whole, and not just trying to extract what they feel that they lack in themselves from the other person. And they are also not trying to constantly change the other person.

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