Relationships and moving on

Emotional Cord Cutting

All of us at some stage in our lives have gone through difficult relationships, whether it be a significant other, parent figure, friend or a work colleague. A cord maybe a positive or negative energetic structure that ties you and another person together.

A positive bond that contains energies like love, good times and lesson learned together, affection …all the good stuff! This is a positive cord that we never want to sever because it contains all that is good about the relationship.

Sadly one other is a negative cord of attachment – this energetic structure is very different from the positive type because it contains all the negative energies that have ever been a feature of your relationship.  For example, let’s say you have a cord of attachment to an ex-boyfriend…. Maybe he cheated on you, maybe he just ignored you, maybe he was emotionally absent..  Encoded within this cord are the feelings you had when you found out he was cheating on you.  This could be feelings of paranoia, energies of inadequacy; feelings of rage.  Also encoded within the cord could be the pattern of wanting to please your boyfriend, so that he wouldn’t ever leave you. When you split up, you may never see each other again, but the negative structure (the cord of attachment) between you can remain…. This is a cord that contains those unhelpful patterns : rage, inadequacy, paranoia; keeping quiet and pleasing others at your own expense.

Even though you are supposed to have moved on from the relationship, those energies circulate between you both and still affect you.  For example, you still think of your ex-partner and you still despise him even though you wish you didn’t.  When you get into a new relationship, you may feel the same old paranoia.  And things that happen may remind you of the old relationship – even though it bears no resemblance, in reality.

The problem is that all the painful and traumatic experiences that were created in that relationship can then be carried on to your next relationship. In fact the frequency of those unresolved energy cords and ties may attract you to people, places, times, things and events that resonate with the frequency of that , anger, grief, betrayal, heartbreak, pain and hurt. So when you do enter into another relationship you can have a tendency to project onto your new relationship all of this anger and hurt from the past one. These relationship cycles continue over and over and the person is not aware why their relationships fail or why they can’t attract a different type of person. So they keep creating more and more similar experiences and the energetic blockages become more solidified

What is cord cutting?

Cord-cutting is a process that severs that negative attachment between you and another person so that the shadow of that past does not hang over you or affect your behaviour in the present.    Cord cutting often frees up more of our energy and stops you repeating the pattern with the person in question.

This process is exactly what I facilitate for other people during the interactive Cutting Cords of Attachment Clearing Session.  Using Hypnosis with advanced energy healing techniques  we are able to cut all karmic ties and energy cords that bind you to that previous relationship(s).

Some of the most common relationships that are important to focus on are:

mother/daughter, father/son, husband/wife, past friends, past lovers, past abusive relationships, and relationships with employers.

When we clear the karmic ties and cut cords of attachments between you and your family members, it doesn’t mean that you can’t have a relationship with them anymore. It just means that your relationship will evolve from a karmic or co-dependent one, into a relationship of love and understanding.
 A true union is when you can love the other person and not expect anything back from them in return, and allow them to be who they are. In this way, you have two people who are truly whole, and not just trying to extract what they feel that they lack in themselves from the other person. And they are also not trying to constantly change the other person.

Reiki & Hypnosis

Definition of Reiki

Reiki is a spiritual healing art. It is not massage nor is it based on belief or suggestion. A Reiki session usually is between 60 and 90 minutes in length. The session is performed by a Reiki Practitioner (RP or RMT) using specific Reiki hand positions. During a Reiki session, the client is fully clothed while comfortably reclining on a massage table or seated in a chair. A Reiki session aids in stress reduction and it is almost always a very relaxing experience. Reiki sessions or classes are a great investment in yourself.

Reiki is:
– A subtle and effective form of energy healing using spiritually guided life force energy (Rei-ki)
– Practiced in every country of the world
– Being used in many setting including hospitals, hospice, as well as in private practice and in self-care
– A wonderful complementary modality in a personal wellness or healing program

Reiki is not:
– Affiliated with any particular religion or religious practice
– New, it is thousands of years old (at least)

Defining qualities of Reiki:
– A practice of transmitting healing energy through the hands
– Passed on through the attunement process
– The energy is not guided by the practitioner, but the energy has it’s own innate wisdom to guide itself.
– Reiki energy is not based on belief, faith or suggestion.

A Reiki session can help ease tension and stress, and can help support the body to facilitate healing on all levels- physical, mental, emotional and spiritual. A session is pleasant and relaxing and is often utilized for one’s own personal wellness, not just illness. A Reiki I class is a great gift to give to yourself.

The Reiki Ethics

Reiki is a unique healing method. It requires that you touch another person. Not just with your hands but also with energy. You share in the loving energy of the source that God has made available to all. It is a unique and special gift.

Many people coming for healing are vulnerable. They may be vulnerable emotionally or physically. It is imperative that you do not violate that trust that they place in you. If a person is experiencing emotional release, as a result of the treatment it is essential that you maintain their confidentiality and respect their lives.

Reiki principles as follows:

Just for today I will count my blessings

Just for today I will not worry

Just for today I will not anger

Just for today I will do my work honestly

Just for today I will be kind to every living creature






Listen.  Listen to what your body is telling you. Each and every cell in your body is full of innate wisdom that is being communicated to you constantly.  All you have to do is learn to listen.  It is truly amazing what you can learn if you will just listen to what your body has to say!

Whether physical or emotional in nature, disease in general, and pain in particular can be ways for your body to send you messages.

This listening and getting to know the uncomfortable place is just exactly the opposite of what most people want to do.  The tendency is to hide, ignore, push away or numb uncomfortable feelings. Yet, the more one ignores or actively numbs a painful place or feeling, the “louder” the body will get.  It is only in bringing awareness to the affected area and listening to it, that true healing is possible.

It is often in exploring and listening to the uncomfortable place that it will begin to diminish or release.  Its message conveyed, it can now let go.

Paul Aurand created this wonderful healing process that I was taught nearly 10 years ago. It is a gentle but extremely powerful journey of healing …the combination  of Reiki and Hypnosis is a pathway to health,happiness and general well being.





The Battle of Willpower and the Subconscious Mind

Many people believe they could improve their lives if only they had more of that mysterious thing called willpower. With more self-control we would all eat right, exercise regularly, avoid drugs and alcohol, save for retirement, stop procrastinating, and achieve all sorts of goals. Survey participants regularly cite lack of willpower as the No. 1 reason for not following through with such changes.


Defining willpower

We have many common names for willpower: determination, drive, resolve, self-discipline, self-control. But psychologists characterize willpower, or self-control, in more specific ways. According to most psychological scientists, willpower can be defined as:

  • The ability to delay gratification, resisting short-term temptations in order to meet long-term goals.
  • The capacity to override an unwanted thought, feeling or impulse.
  • The ability to employ a “cool” cognitive system of behavior rather than a “hot” emotional system.
  • Conscious, effort to  resist.

The Subconscious Mind

Your subconscious mind is like a huge memory bank. Its capacity is virtually unlimited. It permanently stores everything that ever happens to you. It is lazy and doesn’t like change…that which is familiar is the order of the day!

The function of your subconscious mind is to store and retrieve data. Its job is to ensure that you respond exactly the way you are programmed. Your subconscious mind makes everything you say and do fit a pattern consistent with your self-concept, your “master program.”

So if we think we are a smoker…sure enough we are!

If we think we are fat…Happy to oblige!

If we think we cant….well then we cant!

and so on and on  we go repeating the pattern

The subconscious mind is an unquestioning servant that works day and night to make your behavior fit a pattern consistent with our emotionalized thoughts, hopes, and desires.

All your habits of thinking and acting are stored in your subconscious mind. It has memorized all your comfort zones and it works to keep you in them.

Your subconscious mind causes you to feel emotionally and physically uncomfortable whenever you attempt to do anything new or different, or to change any of your established patterns of behavior.

For you to grow, to get out of your comfort zone, you have to be willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable doing new things the first few times. If it’s worth doing well, it’s worth doing poorly until you get a feel for it, until you develop a new comfort zone at a new, higher level of competence.

Hypnosis can help with that change… can and often does keep us on the right road until a new habit has been formed. Once we feel comfortable again with our chosen new habit we find it easy to remain a non smoker,easy to slim down,easy to be optimistic, easy to reach for the stars!   Try it!

Hypnosis for Panic attacks

Hypnosis for anxiety and panic attacks
Hypnosis is very efficient to get rid of acute anxiety quickly. The effect of a one-time direct hypnosis has an effect of about 48 to 72 hours. Afterwards, the effect slowly disappears, unless it is supplemented with self-hypnosis or other therapeutic interventions. It is thus an ideal technique for concrete situations like performance anxiety prior to an exam, presentation or job interview within 48 hours.

Self-hypnosis is a powerful tool to teach a client to stop their anxiety themselves with the help of self-hypnosis exercise.

Hypnotherapy can and often does get to the root of the problem….ie the very first event causing the symptoms of fear,anxiety…feelings of loss of control.
Once this is cleared,the fear of the fear is considerably weakened and often disappears completely. This depth of trance and clearing/releasing usually requires between 2 and 4 sessions to get back to the initial sensitizing event (ISE)
Over a period of time subsequent sensitizing events (SSE) whether real or imagined reinforce the feelings of anxiety/panic etc . Hypnosis is the key to unlock and release those fears.